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Who is liberated in the west? Part 2

Is Paradise for Men Only?

 

One cannot predict how long this paradise will continue to thrive, but it is clear that if there should happen a real women’s awakening and real women’s liberation movement then its end would be easier to foresee. The women movement has done nothing to change the way men and women live together as man and wife. In fact, it has created the type of society many men would crave; free sex, no marriage constraints, and no financial responsibilities. Most men applaud women’s strides in the liberation movement because they know they are being let off the hook more and more as time goes by. Deep inside them they realize they would never trade places with a woman because her life is filled to the brim with extra financial demands, a lower social status, and more stress.

 

What bothers most women about men in the west is that while they expect their wives  to work outside, they still call house work “women’s work.” And then there is a man who makes his wife feel inferior by reminding her his salary is bigger than hers. In what way is this woman liberated when she is performing so much more than her share towards her relationship, marriage and family?

 

Only a few years ago women cleverly designed legally binding contracts called prenuptial agreements to protect their assets and economic security during marriage and in case of divorce. Men accused women who asked for such contracts, manipulative and demanding, simply because she was looking out for herself.

 

If a woman has property, a high paying career or other assets, it becomes a partial property of her future husband if she does not state otherwise in a prenuptial agreements. This portrays the double standard women in the west face. Whenever a man asserts himself or “beats the system,” he is called intelligent and resourceful, but if a woman asserts herself, she is called manly or aggressive. The system is designed so that men are the only ones allowed to play.

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About Imran Ali

IMRAN ALI, is an up-coming writer and columnist. His studies were interrupted when he, as a child of 14, simply told his father M. Sulemen, a businessman, that he just can't get what his school teacher teaches paying little attention to the weak students of the class. So, on a promise that he'll 'study at home' he never again saw the face of the school, though he carried his studies well to fullfill the promise of his; his experience as a volunteer(a dedicated social worker) provided him with material for his articles and writings. He first gained attention with ''Aurangzed as he was'' and ''New world Order 'Vs' Just world Order'' (September 2011, The Companion, English monthly, and several other magazines), probably his finest articles. Next 10 year he coming with his debut novel, and is fully dedicated on it's research. Taken together, his articles present a broad, naturalistic picture of Indian life. His subjects include History, the Indian peasantry, the bureaucracy, life of a downtrodden Indians and have nots, the emotional problems of the different classes, and, ominously, hallucination, Very new in Style and to Approach, Combining psychoanalysis with human behaviour. His writings well captures the collective psyche of the world as a whole. He's been a district level boxer. Known as a peoples magnet in his vast friends circle, and a booklover who humorously with pride discloses, '' I've read over hundreds of books relating to arts, literature, science, metaphysics, naturopathy and psychlogy. So, the conclusion here is easy to derive, that i, who was raised from childhood in a modern muslim belief have been mostly preferring reading all kinds of books rather than writing!'' His reading since childhood, has been mostly centered around knowing the truths[truth here means of all kinds humans ever categorized, mysteries and human psyche has given me a better understanding of the human soul, mind and spirit in collaboration with my Islamic teachings.] Since he started his reading at the age of 15 reading Stories of literary giants, like Leo tolstoy, George Orwell, and Guy de muppasant and many Indian masters like Sir Mohammed Iqbal(The Poet Of the East), Margret Marcus, Leopold weiss, and Manto. And their collective influence made me search for my own moorings, adapting my father's style of srorytelling. In the beginning, there was nothing magnificent in acquiring all this, from books, as it was nothing more beside his own interest, and his interest to help morally deprived and confused men he used to meet in parties and gatherings. And amazingly, only a few years back, an up an coming, extraordinarily talented writer and one of his closest friends of his, who always loved his ideas gave rise to a writer hiding somewhere inside him. When while sipping the tea he insisted him to collect his ideas in a diary which keep on counselling youngmen of varieties every third day resulting in a great interruption in our appointed informational communication. Suddenly, at the very instinct, the idea occured in his mind of writing down these ideas effectively, concisely and pertaining to the questions of todays' youth who are short of time resolving them. And with him as his inspiration, he picked up the pen, and started unfolding, writing in the name of the architect of this whole universe. Which is none other than ''Allah.''

12 comments on “Who is liberated in the west? Part 2

  1. (Whenever a man asserts himself or “beats the system,” he is called intelligent and resourceful, but if a woman asserts herself, she is called manly or aggressive. The system is designed so that men are the only ones allowed to play.) That’s right…..
    As long as the man is the one who is liberated in the west, why we-from east and other countries-import their thinking about women and these stuffs?

    • Indeed sister Lina we shouldn’t do it.It’s just like the slavery of minds,the Masr of minds as is portrayed in Surah Al Baqarah when Bani Israil asked Musa(‘alyhissalam) for something other(onions,garlic etc) than that Allah had given them.So Musa (‘alyhissalam) told them,you prefer that which is lesser (man made) to that which is greater(from Allah)?Then go down to another misr(location/Egypt).In order to be enslaved again.It shows that they were not free in their minds.
      Same is the case with us,imho.
      It is the slavery of minds that make us prefer other systems than that bestowed by God,just like Bani Israil were enslaved in their minds.

      • Preferring lesser than greater is an illness which affects the human but the puzzled question that why the human does something like that?
        I think the human wants to follow his desires so for example he didn’t care about Al-Sharea’a . The human also didn’t trust in his religion so he takes the lesser, or he didn’t know anything about his religion so he preferred the lesser.
        That means Will believing make Muslims minds go to the realities of the world and discover what the Good for the whole world is, that’s why Islam has come and also to free you from slavery to other countries to be just a follower not a leader…

    • Its not just “their thinking” sister. Cultural differences kept apart, patriarchy is a universal phenomena and so the thinking of men regarding women does not differ much as far as the matter of “their” superiority is concerned.

  2. striking the balance, welldone mr. Author

  3. I agree with the view that “system is designed so that men are the only ones allowed to play”. And its true, not just for the west, but for almost all systems working in this world.

    • Agreed…women hold a secondary position everywhere and it cant be helped because this position is approved by the religion as well. God’s favour lies with men, so women do not even have right to complain about their lower position or they will be accused of going against the divine order.

      • No I don’t agree. Men and women are equal (and not the same) as I said earlier and posted a link. http://soundvision.com/Info/gender/ I would highly recomend this book to all. I would, God Willing, also post articles on this issue later on answering all the contentions that were raised on it in some comments on the first part.

  4. Indeed,true liberation is the liberation of self.That can only come through servitude to none but God,not even self.

  5. @Kashif Zuberi….whatever contentions r raised in comments on first part, u either admit them or deny them altogether…justifications r not invited

  6. “If a woman has property, a high paying career or other assets, it becomes a partial property of her future husband if she does not state otherwise in a prenuptial agreements. This portrays the double standard women in the west face.”

    Having worked at a law firm for two years, as a receptionist who frequently prepared court documents for civil matters such as divorce, this statement is inaccurate at best.

    When a man and woman marry, his property gained (including money) from that point on and her property gained from that point on become community property, with few exceptions. (I’ll get to that.) It belongs to both equally.

    Either party can ask for a prenuptial agreement that ensures their property remains separate.

    Property that belonged to either property before the marriage remains separate property, unless it is mixed with community property. For example, if a man has $40,000 in his bank account and a woman has $10,000 in hers when they marry, that money is separate. If they open a joint bank account and combine their money, that $50,000 sum is equally owned by both. The woman or man can leave the marriage with half the money, even though that figure does not equal what each party contributed to the community fund.

    Also, if a woman or man inherits property while married, that property IS NOT community property. Upon divorce, the spouse is not entitled to a portion of separate property, or a portion of the sale of it.

    Furthermore, a spouse is entitled to a portion of the other spouse’s retirement fund in the event of a divorce. A man who has worked to save money for his retirement for twenty years while married, could easily find himself with half the sum he’s worked to save in the event of a divorce. This is done, I believe, to protect women who assume traditional roles (stay at home moms) from being completely dependent upon a husband who treats them unfairly. This is often abused by greedy women looking to punish their soon to be ex husbands.

    Divorce is ugly around here, and both parties fight with all the weapons and ammo they have at their disposal. And believe me when I say, women do not come to the fight helpless or unarmed.

    As I’ve said before, I respect the opinion of others, but the world you’ve painted seems like a parallel universe to the one I live in. When you refer to “the west”, what region are you talking about? This article and the one I read prior picks up mid-conversation. I may be way off-base with my responses because I assume my home state is included in the region of which you speak, and it very well may not be. Just a suggestion, when writing articles, assume your readers have no idea what you are talking about (or any aspect of the topic) until you tell them, so that readers like me can follow along. 🙂

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